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I wrote a post a couple days back titled “First Things First”, and what I outlined in that article is basically you want to build yourself up to be an amazing guy first, THEN after that do you want to go out and meet the women of your dreams. Not before. You don’t become the man of their dreams by meeting them all when you’re a life sucking, value hungry, insecure/unsure about yourself guy.

So how do you become the guy of their dreams without going out “sarging” wildly and trying to get the 1000 “sets” under your belt? Well quite simply, you come to us. (hahaha)

But for those who can not meet us for our bullet-proof seminars and workshops, I am more than happy to outline our tried, tested, and true method for winning over any one you please. Of course, I’ll give it to you bit by bit, piece by piece so you can digest it. A book will be released outlining everything soon, but just take whatever I say for now and know that I’m sequencing it in an order that will benefit you the most. So, the First lesson:

Meaning Well

You will never…

1. Cut someone down for rejecting you

2. Lie to someone to get something where if you said the truth they would not give it to you

3. Tell a story that didn’t actually happen

4. Talk to someone purely just to raise your value?

These are just a few…

You will always do your Best to…

1. Only Enrich people’s lives, in ALL of your daily actions

2. Only say things which are meant to Uplift people

3. Laugh when someone else cracks a funny joke about you. Then call them an asshole. (haha jokingly of course)

4. Leave when they don’t want anything to do with you.

These are just 8 of the many things the best socializers in the world know instinctively. And you can too when you start to pay attention to the dynamics which I will set on a plate for you.

The importance of meaning well, is that it will do many things for you. here are the 2 major ones which you are probably the most interested in.

-Increased Confidence

-Decrease in Anxiety

Could you use the increase and decrease in these 2 things? Of course you can, everybody does. If you don’t, that’s like saying you don’t need an extra $1000. Even if you’re rich you’d take it cause then you’d have the power to give that $1000 to a cause that you deem worthy. Not a direct comparison but you get my point.

You increase your confidence because you know you’re only giving people a good thing, and you decrease your anxiety by a noted amount because quite simply, what do you have to be anxious about? Would you get anxious if you were going to give a stranger a cheque for $1 000 000? No you wouldn’t. So why would you feel anxious for giving a girl who you think is absolutely gorgeous a genuine sincere compliment on her looks? Cause you don’t think she will take it in a good way?

What if that person you were going to give the cheque for $1 000 000 didn’t take it in a good way? Thought you thought he was poor and told you to get off his property. How would you feel bout that? Same rejection, but what’s different?

The difference is that you know that the $1 000 000 is a good thing. It can only be good for the person. A million dollars can fix many peoples problems, or at least make them happy for a short period of time. Can you say the same things about you? When you’re out trying to meet people, you are essentially going to be a part of their lives if you succeed. Are you as good as a million dollars?

Sounds like a tall order, however I can tell you with 100% sincerity that even $1 Billion dollars would not persuade me to never be able to see all of my closest friends ever again for the rest of my life. Yes I could make new ones, especially with the money I could make fake ones, but the friends I have today are not only my favourite people in the world, they are my favourite things about life in the world.

You have the potential within yourself to be that important to someone else, and most likely already are with someone.

You can bet your ass the only way you can do that is from either:

1. Meaning Well

2. Inspiring Them

I forget who said it but most of us have heard this,

“Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”

How true is that?

So to conclude this first lesson here. ONLY think to mean well whenever you are out doing your “pick up” thing. No matter what that is, if you’re approaching, calling them, or meeting them for a date, MEAN WELL.

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